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                                            Fights Rudeness With Children’s Book Series

                                       

                                                                                Topic Summary

 It may be Father’s Day, but it’s no secret that people are just becoming ruder – including kids. Polls say dads are raising kids during a rudeness epidemic.

A Rasmussen poll finds 87 percent of a survey group of 1,000 believe that Americans are “becoming more rude and less civilized.” Just 10 percent say Americans are becoming kinder and gentler. In addition 81 percent of Americans say they have to confront someone because of his or her rude behavior in public. Rudeness is catchy. Parents are passing rudeness down to their kids.

 

“The culprits are clear,” says Mary Jane McKittrick, a professional storyteller with experience hosting TV entertainment shows; anchoring, reporting, and producing TV news; and a stint in corporate communications, who wants to shift the trend.

 

Enter decency. Her Mom’s Choice Award-winning children’s book series, Boomer and Halley© from Tuxedo Cat Productions (www.boomerandhalley.com), teaches kids 4-8 common decency lessons on being polite, having manners, integrity, and ethics, through humorous stories. “We need to start kids early on learning lessons of personal civility and core values so we can stem the tide of the rudeness and lack of personal consideration that is becoming more the rule than the exception,” says McKittrick.

           McKittrick can discuss:

 The biggest reason kids aren’t learning about the value of good behavior these days and what Dad’s can do about it.

  • 3 ways kids learn that being rude is cool. (Hint: it’s in your living room)
  • How the Internet is raising latchkey kids and training them to bully, boast and berate.
  • How the bad economy affects a Dads’ ability to address civility issues and ways to shift that.
  • The one thing that all of us can do to stem the tide of the rudeness epidemic and return our nation to civility.

                                                About Mary Jane McKittrick

A native of Los Angeles, Mary Jane McKittrick grew up in the San Fernando Valley with horses, cats and dogs. Her lifelong love of animals informs her stories, and features her childhood dog, Boomerang, an Australian Shepherd, (Boomer), along with a silver streak of a cat, Halley’s Comet, (Halley), and their adoptive “parents,” Harold and Edna Sanders living in the small Southern town of Shady Pines. Mary Jane enjoyed a successful career as a professional storyteller with experience in entertainment television, broadcast TV, and corporate communications. She is comfortable in front of cameras and microphones.

Posted on June 11, 2013 in All Articles

Dealing with a Rude Teen?

Rude behavior is an across-the-board problem these days. Examples range from family members, and work site issues- including bullying, to cultural examples on TV, Pundits, the Internet, Music videos,  and political representatives in all branches of local and national government.

So, it’s not surprising that some teenagers are trying the patience of those around them. I’m sharing this article that discusses a possible solution if you are facing this particular issue. Let us know if this helps you and if YOU are facing something similar.

Read Here:

The first 30 minutes of my family session with 13-year-old Emma
was filled with her being sarcastic, rolling of her eyes and responding
“whatever!
www.mydaytondailynews.com/news/lifestyles/is…/nX6G9/

 

 

Posted on June 11, 2013 in All Articles, Civility for Adults, Civility for Family

Learning Through Fun for Kids

School will soon be out and summer vacations will get underway. How do you engage youngsters in important learning experiences and still make it fun? Fortunately, there are all sorts of summer camps and programs popping up in communities with the intention of doing just that.

Take some time and look for opportunities for kids to be engaged in positive activites that include a learning component. The Boys and Girls Scouts have been a model for this for generations. Youngsters enroll because they want to play and be with their friends – and meet new ones. Along the way, they are taught to be honest, caring, and trustworthy.

Vacations are also a great way to introduce children to new experiences, places, people, and foods they might not encounter closer to home. Expanding a child’s understanding of the differences that exist in this great nation of ours, can teach tolerance in ways you never thought about before. And, if you want some guidance in setting up a playful, learning activity in your own home, check out Boomer and Halley – Scavenger Hunt. The Sanders family shows how to reap rewards by working together. joy!Book1Cover      Enjoy!

Posted on June 4, 2013 in All Articles, Civility for Family, Little Lessons in Civility

Civility Matters – So Does Integrity

Watching TV news this morning gave me an uneasy, almost sickening feeling. I watched several, different media channels, and the lead stories were the same – the ongoing Benghazi investigation, the wrongful probing of targeted groups by the IRS, and now a growing scandal regarding the government and reporters at the Associated Press.

Forget the partisan politics perhaps driving some of these headlines. I’m not going to address the potential damage some of these probes may have on individual participants or groups of people. The reason I am feeling this sense of dread, is that beneath all of these headlines is one glaring fact: We, as a country, have lost our way. We used to put a premium on doing the right thing. We valued integrity and honesty in our leaders and the institutions that directly impacted our daily lives.

Somehow, slowly, but surely, we have started to believe that the ends justify the means – as long as you don’t get caught. Those weren’t the rules I grew up with in my house. What about you? When I was young I was taught to do the right thing. If I made a mistake, or a bad choice, I was told to apologize and try to help mitigate any damage my actions might have caused. In other words, I was taught to consider the other person and take responsibility for my actions.

Now, it seems if you have the right spin on the story you concoct, or a complex cover-up, you can beat the system. That’s not how it’s suppose to work. In fact, we’re seeing example after example that it isn’t working. So why are so many people playing it fast and loose?

It’s time for voices who value civility and integrity to rise up and start shouting for change. That’s what I’m doing with my Boomer and Halley(c) book series for children 4-8. I’m trying to show young children that being good citizens has long-term reward. Please join us. Participate in this site and others like it. Civility training has to start young and it has to start now!

 

 

 

Posted on May 14, 2013 in All Articles, Civility for Adults

Civility Champion of the Month: Gabrielle Giffords

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Being of service to one’s family, community, or nation, is a bedrock value of civility. Couple that with a compassionate, caring, and dedication to her constituents and I am proud to choose Gabrielle “Gabby” Giffords for April’s Boomer and Halley Civility Champion Award.

After surviving a near-fatal shooting, the former Congresswoman continues to inspire people everywhere she goes.

In her own words…

“Standing up for one’s own integrity makes you no friends. It is costly. Yet, defiance of the mob, in the service of that which is right, is one of the highest expressions of courage I know.”

Continue Reading →

Posted on April 15, 2013 in Civility Champion of the Month

Why my mom always hated Mother’s Day! A Lesson in Appreciation

Americans spend more than 18-billion dollars on Mother’s Day gifts. According to the National Retail Federation, we each spend around $153 on gifts for the woman who gave us birth. This special day has become big business. And, for one woman I know well, that’s the problem.

I know this sounds crazy. But before every Mother’s Day my mom would start to grumble. It began with all the ads on TV for cards, jewelry, flowers, and special meals at expensive restaurants. The radio and print ads would only increase her unease. Oh, sure she put up with all the fuss we made over her year after year, but she never seemed to enjoy the attention all that much.

The Explanation

Finally, I got up the gumption to ask her THE question: “Mom, what is it about Mother’s Day that makes you so unhappy?” Her answer gave me pause… Continue Reading →

Posted on April 4, 2013 in Civility for Family

The Rude Ones Down the Street

Now that rude behavior is all around us, we sometimes have to deal with situations that require a real dose of civility.

One of the recent questions submitted to our Ask Mary Jane series brought this to light. I was asked, “What do you do when your children’s friends are over at your house, and they’re acting out of control? What options do you have?”

The Rules

The fact is, you probably have more options that we can cover here. From my own experience growing up, to talking with parents facing this dilemma today, we found a common theme. You have to set boundaries and then make sure everyone adheres to them. Do your kids know, “The Rules of Your House?” These don’t have to written down, but they should be known and understood. What do you allow, and what don’t you allow? Civility has to be practiced, it doesn’t just happen.

Implementation

It may be frustrating to encounter rude behavior in public places, but there may not be much you can do to change that. (Although, I’d love to explore your thoughts on that subject at a later date). But, when it comes to your house, you can, and should be clear about conduct that OK and not OK. This gives your children a chance to turn to their friend and say, “Hey, my folks don’t let us do that.” This lets you child off the hook for being the bad guy, and just states the facts of the case. If, for some reason, the visiting child doesn’t get the message, you can go to phase two. Some parents will get involved at this point and say to the visitor, “Do I need to take you home and have a chat with your parents?” That usually does it.

If you have any other solutions to this kind of situation, please share with us. We’d love to hear from you!

Posted on April 2, 2013 in Little Lessons in Civility

Ask Mary Jane: How to help the behavior of your children’s friends?

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“Ask Mary Jane” is a weekly series on our blog in which Mary Jane shares civil answers to your toughest questions. 

We’d love to hear from you! Submit your own question »

This week’s question…

What do you do when you kids’ friends are over at your house and they’re completely out of control? Do you say something to them? Call their parents? It’s gotten really bad at times.

– Sarah, parent of two  Newark, New Jersey

Mary Jane’s answer…

Hi Sarah, that can be tricky. I’ve had this question from others as well. I can tell you what worked in my family…

My parents made it very clear to us what behavior was – and wasn’t – allowed in our home. That went for us, and anyone we brought to the house. So, if one of our friends starting acting out, we would tell them, “Sorry, but my folks don’t allow that (whatever that is) in our house.”

In this way, my parents were the bad guys, and I got to play good guy. It was very hard for my friends to argue with that approach. If they kept at it, my parent(s) would step in and explain if they didn’t stop, they would be taken home and there would be a chat with the kid’s parents.

The key here is: you have to establish the rules of the house so that everyone is on the same page. Hope this helps!

We’d love to hear from you! Submit your own question to Ask Mary Jane.

Posted on April 2, 2013 in Ask Mary Jane

Ask Mary Jane: How to talk politics with young children?

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“Ask Mary Jane” is a weekly series on our blog in which Mary Jane shares civil answers to your toughest questions. 

We’d love to hear from you! Submit your own question »

This week’s question…

With all the rude stuff politicians say these days, how do you talk about politics with young children?

- Dave, grandfather  Greensboro, NC

Mary Jane’s answer…

Having covered politics and politicians as a reporter, I can tell you it has gotten a lot rougher out there.

One thing I recommend is to start with the concept of service. Most politicians I’ve talked to behind the scenes tell me they got into politics to try and make changes in their communities. Being of service is a great concept of civility.

Why not try that approach and see where it takes you!

“Ask Mary Jane” is a weekly series on the Boomer and Halley blog. Submit your own questions for Mary Jane – [add link to ask form]

Posted on April 2, 2013 in Ask Mary Jane

Ask Mary Jane: What inspired the book Scavenger Hunt?

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“Ask Mary Jane” is a weekly series on our blog in which Mary Jane shares civil answers to your toughest questions. 

We’d love to hear from you! Submit your own question »

This week’s question…

I was wondering how you came up with the idea for your first book, Boomer and Halley – Scavenger Hunt?

– Sharon, Pasadena, CA

Mary Jane’s answer…

Actually, Sharon, that storyline comes from my own childhood…

One weekend, when my brother and I visited my grandparents it, started to rain and they didn’t know what to do with us. My grandfather came up with the idea of hiding one dollar bills and Hershey Bars all over the house and having us go on a scavenger hunt to find them. It seemed like it took a long time to find all the items.

It sure was fun!

“Ask Mary Jane” is a weekly series on the Boomer and Halley blog. Submit your own questions for Mary Jane – [add link to ask form]

Posted on April 2, 2013 in Ask Mary Jane